How Polish men flirt in the city of Lodz

Like I mentioned in my previous post, Polish men have a very harsh way of flirting. However, I must say that this is probably due to the fact that they do it mostly while partying, when alcohol levels are high and influence their manners. That's why today I am going to describe to you their behaviour, according to my own experience, so that you women who are coming to Lodz are prepared.

Usually clubs get full of anxious Polish men whose profile is quite predictable.

In Lodz, you will mostly find the typical hard featured prototype of guy, with a shaved head and the famous neck wrinkle in the back. They usually are deep gazed, iron faced, unfriendly and slightly too tanned. For some reason, they always wear sweat pants. The only time they change out of them is to wear jeans, in an attempt to dress up when they go out. However, they don't really bother changing the hoodie (which they believe adds a "badass" touch) and the sneakers (usually the Puma model) which were fashionable a few years ago. They only wear coats when the temperatures drop below 0°C. Most of the time, you will see them wearing thin denim jackets, definitely not suited for the freezing temperatures in Lodz. Of course, one must maintain the hard guy image as long as physically possible.

The majority are muscly, really muscly. The kind of muscles gained through protein supplements, or even more radical, anabolics and steroids... which leaves you facing a bloated dude. It is indeed true that this is the preferred aesthetic in Lodz.

Now that you can picture who we are dealing with, let me explain to you why I consider Polish flirting methods are quite harsh:

• 1. The eye contact : Imagine that you are peacefully dancing with your friends in the club, when suddenly you notice a Polish guy checking you out. If you choose to ignore him and keep dancing and enjoying your night, he will make sure to shamelessly keep staring at you for as long at it takes to get a reaction out of you.
• 2. The approach : Either the guy will be too proud/shy to actually come talking to you, that he simply won't stop staring and getting closer to you in the hopes you will make the first move, or, after staring very intensely at you without any result, he will grow tired and walk up to you.
• 3. The first move: That's when the complicated phase starts. Determined, the Polish Casanova will litterally throw himself all over you, grabbing your face in his huge palms and screaming some Polish words into your ear. In that moment, the stench of vodka combined with strong cologne will have reached you. Your ear and cheek will be covered in spit. After taking a deep breath and freeing your face from with sweaty hands, you clean yourself the best way you can. You politely apologize for not speaking Polish (when really you simply are grossed out), turn around and go back to your friends to do whatever it was you were doing before this rude interruption. However, for some reason, your reaction seems to have the opposition effect of the one you hoped for.
• 4. The second attempt: You are having the time of your life, dancing to your favourite jam when, out of the blue, you feel someone grab your waist in a very rough way. This time, you take two deep breaths and realise that no matter how hard you try, you won't manage to get rid of that very stubborn guy. The latter, who suffers from severe short-term memory loss (since he has already forgotten you are not from there), will get closer to your face again to scream another incomprehensive sentence in your ear, while pulling your waist closer to his body.

  accompanied by a sequence of your waist to bring you closer to him, you are beyond grossed out by his sweaty sticking body and realize that the only way to get rid of him is to be unpleasant. You break apart abruptly and shout some easily understandable and possibly very rude come back (insert here any word/adjective or gesture that will do the job). If you are very lucky, he will move onto another victim. However, this is rarely the case and things can get even more complicated.

• 5. The (possibly) violent reaction: Finally, you have shown some character to make it clear that you don't want the very rude Polish guy to get close nor touch you. The problem is, he might have a hard time accepting no for an answer and react in a very aggressive way. Hear me out here : most of the time, we women think that because we are women, a man won't dare pushing or hitting us. This doesn't apply to the drunk agressive Polish guy who you just rejected. Yes, you've read correctly. Even when you managed to keep your cool and stay as polite as possible, said guy won't hesitate to answer with violence. In such cases, please get away immediately and go to a safer zone like the bar, or go to the bouncers who can intervene. Try not to let people like this ruin your night and make you go home early. Should you not manage to get rid of them, the more drastic measure would be to leave and go some place else.

Conclusion: I would like to clarify my position by saying that this is my general take on Polish men. However, based on my personal experience, I'd say that there is still a hint of hope for us : around 1 out of every 10 men is nice, physically conventionally attractive and not bloated on dietary supplements, wearing clothes he has really put thought into (like a shirt, black trousers and a pair of boots). His face will be kind, his gaze gentle and have a nice smile. This very rare Polish guy will approach you by inviting you for a drink or for a dance. After that, it is up to you whether you accept or decline his offer. And, would you choose to decline, he will simply retreat in silence without causing fuzz. However, in my opinion if a Polish guy approaches you this way, you might not want to reject him straight away. In my opinion, having a chat and drink will do no harm as long as you clearly state what you are looking for from the beginning and set the necessary boundaries. If things turn weird or uncomfortable, you can always go back to your friends. But this is not going to hold you back from getting to know the cute Polish guy.

As you can see, things get quite complex when you combine various ingredients such as Polish men, alcohol and their mostly disastrous flirting skills. However, remember that what matters is that you feel comfortable to talk and get to know the ones you do like. Another important thing to remember is that even though this particular post is about Polish men, there are plenty of men who are part of the Erasmus program in your city who you can spend time with, learning all about their culture. You might even let yourself get swept of your feet by the accent of that cute Italian with long hair and a well trimmed three-day beard, or dance with the Portuguese guy who has incredible dancing skills and knows exactly how to lead you. This is the way we like it.

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