8 Tips for Living Happily as a Couple

Living as a couple can be the most beautiful and happy experience, one that we've desired for a long time, one that we dream about when we meet the ideal person, so? How can it turn into a complete nightmare? There are certain things that can outweigh and put an end to the love that was there, and it doesn't mean that the feelings weren't strong, but rather that the individuals didn't act how they should've and let the day-to-day struggles ruin the beauty that was there. But the intention of this is that it will not happen to you or at least that it will not happen again (if you have already experienced it yourself already).

I will give you some very simple but effective and marvellous tips so that you can always have a great relationship, so living together as a couple improves you as lovers, partners and individuals, so the love grows as a whole and you can have the happiness you deserve.

Tips for Living as a Couple

1. - Find your own way to make things work.

Don't compare yourselves to other couples, or previous relationships, it's important to understand that you have an authentic and unique relationship, with your own dynamic that should keep adapting so that it works for you both.

2. - Be clear that there's two of you and not just one.

Many couples make the mistake of thinking that showing love is to absorb one-another -thinking that you become one, often putting aside each other's separate expectations, dreams and goals. The point is that you can grow separately and that the decision is to stay together as long as you feel good that way.

3. - Love each other as you are and respect each other.

Another error that makes living together more difficult is not accepting the other person as they are, wanting to change them, and even though it's obvious that everyone should make an effort to make concessions to sustain the relationship, we can't seek to change the essence of the person that we 'supposedly' love. If you want to change someone, change yourself.

4. - Be happy together, but don't depend on the other person to be happy.

This point is really important, we should never give up the ability to be happy to someone else, even if we think they are the love of our lives. Every one of us is responsable for our own happiness and leaving this to someone else is totally unthinkable and will bring you huge problems.

5. - Learn to be companions.

When we live as a couple, asides from the romance and the love that brings us together, we should develop an efficient way to make things work. Teaming up and being able to solve problems, plan, also having joint goals, will end up bringing you both together much more.

6. - Giving and receiving.

Couples should always maintain a balance, and this is a key point. We should create a feedback between giving and receiving, because more serious problems start to develop when we think that we are in an unequal relationship where one gives more than the other.

7. - Help each other.

So that everything works, we should help each other, creating a strong empathy, understanding and companionship that lets us support each other.

8. - Appreciate each other every day, accepting the changes.

Accepting that time goes on and that both of you will keep changing is a key point in relationships. Don't stay in love with the person they were before! Everyone changes and it's important to acknowledge each other and choose each other day to day.

Once you're clear, that loving each other isn't enough to live together, but having a bit of understanding, respect, empathy, solidarity and organisation means that everything will run smoothly, you will get over your nerves and anxiety about living together.

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